There Are 3 Types of Attachment Styles—Here's How They Rule Your Relationship

We often refer to relationship "baggage" as unresolved issues a person holds on to from their past, but it turns out that psychologists have a clear way of understanding this broad term. As Business Insider reports, attachment styles can help us categorize and navigate the way we trust and interact with others.

According to the theory, there are three types of attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant. Understanding which category you and your partner fall into can help explain how the past influences our behavior. "We are run by stories, and we don't know what kinds of assumptions rule us until we pause and reflect," psychologist Perpetua Neo told Business Insider. "In therapy, we call these stories 'core beliefs'. It could be upbringing, it could be a difficult experience, or attachment, that can lead to stories about us, such as 'I'm not good enough', 'I'm not worthy', or 'I'm unlovable'."

Here's what to know about each attachment style and what it means for you.